Abuse is more common than one thinks

My nose was pressed against the dining room window as I waited for my dad to come back. I was five when he and my godfather dropped me off at the Duchaine’s. He said that he would be back to get me. I was scared. We went to church on Sunday mornings and the Duchaine’s would also go at night. I stayed home with their son. At first I was innocent, but as time passed I knew what I needed to do to keep him from doing what he said he would do to me if I ever told anyone. My heart still races and tears continue to stream down my cheeks as I write this. I despised Sundays. Most Sunday afternoons the adults, including neighbors, sat on the front porch relaxing. For enjoyment, “the son” would put slugs on my back, as they sat and laughed while I cried and screamed.
At nine, my dad moved us to his youngest sister’s home with her family. I had only seen my three brothers once in four years. I loved it there. It was safe. Sundays were meant for church and family time. One Sunday my aunt asked me to go down to the cellar to get something and as I was coming out, there he was, one of the uncles, covering my mouth and touching me where he had no right. He said if I told, they would take me back to the foster home so my lips were sealed.
At twelve, we moved to Georgia and started a new family. The nightmares were finally over. Then that one neighbor used me to fill his sexual needs, he said not to tell because his wife would die! She was sick he said, and if I did these things he could better take care of her. Then there’s the uncle who licked his lips while looking at me when no one else was looking. Sickening. I told and was scolded saying that it was all in my head. The one who was supposed to protect me didn’t believe me.
Parents listen to your children! Sexual abuse is anything that awakens someone’s sexual desire before God intended it to. I lived in shame for over 50 years thinking that I was at fault causing these things to happen. I was a child! Adults did this to me! During my adult life, I’ve had issues with trust, abandonment, rejection, self worth and relationships. I constantly condemned myself, was never good enough. I became a human doing instead of a human being. I was programmed to satisfy. We don’t want to tell fearing our predator, thinking we are the only ones. Thinking something is wrong with us. That is a lie from satan! It will fester like an open wound! Speaking it will lead you to freedom. The enemy will no longer have control when the secret is out.
My heart aches for anyone who is bound by the power of shame. Children crying themselves to sleep thinking that no one cares. I care and I pray for you each day. May God give you the strength and courage to speak up.
France Clouatre-Pike

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Parachute Analogy

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Remove Hate from your Words

“Hate” we all have said. I hate green peas, I hate my job, I hate my life, I hate this weather and I hate snakes. It has become common to use the word. But As I reflect I have found “Hate” should not be used. God did not call us to “Hate”. God called to us love. We were created in his image to do just that love our neighbor. Using the word Hate give me a cringe I know it is not right to say it and I now feel when I say it and correct myself.
Hugh Downs said that: ” Hatred is never anything but fear–if you feared no one, you would hate no one.” So true. Having worked on myselt to love more over the years I know that hate is fear. Like with snakes we don’t touch them out of fear. When we hate someone is usually out of fear of what they may do to hurt us. But, we need to be the light of love to the world as Christ Followers people need to see a difference in us.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” -Martin Luther King, Jr. God is love so he is not about hate. The apostle John said “Perfect love drives out fear.” And God is the one who has Perfect love. So draw close to him and he will help your fear subside and allow you to love more. People will still do things. Are people seeing you drive out darkness?

People can drive us crazy enough to think they hate you but Christ said it best. “But I say unto you which hear, love your enemies, do go to them which hate you.” – Luke 6:27. Love to me is hard but it has no greater reward. “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends” (John 15:13). Christ set the ultimate example and we shall strive to follow it. It won’t be easy we will slip up but we can start anew And stop hating.

Gandhi said “Hate the sin not eht sinner is a precept which, though easy enough to understand, is rarely practiced and that is why the poison of hatred spreads in the world. He was so right as I reflect on this I know we can change for the better if we remove hate from our words and actions. It will show we are working on making our world reflect the love of Christ. Who is with me on removing “hate” from our words as a place to start.

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The Passing of a Loved one

Each time someone close to us passes on, I feel a very deep emotional pull to re-evaluate my life and it’s priorities. The daily pesky things, the nuances, the hassles, the hustle bustle and pretty much anything outside of “love for my family and friends” drifts off into a perspective of insignificance.

>So much time is wasted by not improving our relationships that we have with others. Volunteering our time, giving compliments and words of encouragement, being a good listener to someone who needs to vent or just spending time with someone doing what “they enjoy doing” can go a loooooong way in reaping the significant benefits that life has to offer us. I am seeing that we should spend less time on ourselves and more time with others. That seems like part of the foundation that love is based on.

But unfortunately it’s much too easy getting caught up in our own little worldly habits, comfort zones, hobbies and “things” that just keeps our Steady Freddy Heady pre-occupied. Not that there’s anything wrong with those things, but too much of the same things tend to make life seem monotonous, repetitive and predictive. That’s the recipe for boredom and anxiety which leads to unease and stress. Those things DO NOT seem like part of the foundation that love is based on.

We were not made in God’s image to simply “react” to life and what it deals us. We were not created to just go through the motions as if we are the ping pong ball and life is the paddles. We are here to spread love to one another through “meaningful” relationships that should encourage us to do better in everything we do. Companionship with one another and God and the spreading of His truths are why we are here. That’s part of the foundation that love is built on!!
passing-2The passing of a loved one provides a perspective that we are normally much too busy to see. Questions like, “why are we here” and “where are we going” permeate our minds. For those that have Christ in their hearts, (like I do) their desire to spread the good news (gospel) becomes paramount because that’s what really has ALL the answers to life’s questions. I LOVE the acronym for B.I.B.L.E – Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth – Kind of says it all!!

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Praying for Grace

Praying for Grace
“Grace comes along and straightens me out.” -D. L. Moody. So when you pray ask for God’s Grace.
Because grace is a pure gift, the most meaningful of our encounters with it will probably come at unintended times, when we are caught off-guard, when manipulative systems are are at rest or otherwise occupied. But still we can pray for grace, actively seek it and try to relax our hands to receive it. Oswald Chambers said “Prayer is the exercise of drawing on the grace of God.”
Prayer for a true gift is a very simple thing — just expressing our desire. As the giver of grace, God deserves a straightforward request. As children of God, we have the right to make that request.
We can also search for grace, in both obvious and hidden places. The obvious places, which avoid or embrace, depending upon our walk with Christ, include the word of God, our community of faith, as well as personal prayer and meditation. The hidden places include times of turmoil and failure, encounter with people we dislike, daily drudgery, and boredom and of course our weakest appetite that makes us sin. And as we pray and search, we can try to relax our hands to receive grace as a gift.
In the middle of beautiful times or ugly ones, peaceful situations or strife, we might just pause, Take a breath and relax. In this little pause, we can look around for God’s Love or we can at least remember his grace. Because “Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. It’s a way to live.”

Honesty

Honesty

A. THE CODE

“Honesty is the best policy.” Benjamin Franklin

ITS ALSO ONE OF THE HARDEST; Why? Because it brings awkwardness, conflict, frustration, sometimes stress, uncertainty.

Billy Joel’s song “HONESTY” says,

“But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to give Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And its mostly what I need from you”

Mark Twain said, “There’s one way to find out if a man is honest: ask him; if he says yes, you know he’s crooked.”

This Is How Our World Thinks: the reason why honesty needs to be a part of the CODE here is: we cannot have a successful team where the members have each others’ backs if we’re not willing to be honest with each other.

Jesus taught us to give Grace, but speak truth. Proverbs 27:17 says, ‘As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.’

The definition of honesty refers to a facet of moral character and connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as truthfulness, and straightforwardness.
IT takes courage to be honest with one another. Jesus was honest with us and courageous enough to give his 100%. Why do we hold back from each other that last 10%?

Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving.

Ephesians 4:15 says, Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is in the Head, that is, Christ Jesus.’

B. HOW DO I SPEAK IN TRUTH?

Even though we may be being honest, going up to someone and telling them I don’t like you accomplishes nothing because it is not done in love.

If “ iron is going to sharpen iron,” you must speak truth in love. Instead of saying that we may ask, “I sense some tension, are we ok? Or let’s go to dinner and talk this out.”

“Therefore putting away lying, ‘Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,’ for we are members of one another.” Ephesians 4:25

Sometimes honesty is difficult, sometimes painful; honesty is always God’s command- ment though. God did not say “Thou shalt not bear false witness when its convenient, nor Thou shalt not bear false witness most of the time.” God said, “Thou shalt not bear false witness.” Period.

Sometime soon, perhaps even today, you will be tempted to bend the truth or perhaps even to break it. Please resist that tempta- tion. Truth is God’s way and it must also be yours.

The single most important element in any humans relationship is honesty – with oneself, with God, and with others. A person who really cares about his or her neighbor, a person who genuinely loves others, is a person who bears witness to the truth.

Lord, You are a God of truth; let me be a person of truth as You have asked me to be. Sometimes speaking the truth is difficult, but when I am weak or fearful Lord, give me the strength to speak words that are worthy of the One who created me, so that others might see Your eternal truth reflected in my words and my deeds. Amen.

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Sin and Salvation

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Sin and Salvation are wrestled with by anyone looking to Christ for the answer.

“That men should live without Christ is grief enough. But that they should die without Christ is an overwhelming horror, which should grind our hearts to powder before God and make us fall on our faces and cry, ‘O God, have mercy upon them and save them, for thy grace and love’s sake!’ The deepest tenderness, it may be, some of us have yet to learn.” — Charles H. Spurgeon. We at Found Right.org want you to know it is a wrestle to struggle with sin and not believe that Salvation through Jesus Christ is the only way to put an end to sin in your life. It is crystal clear from this scripture as well as many other scriptures that sin is one of the works of the devil. And it was for this VERY purpose that Jesus came into the world as the Son of man to destroy sin.1st John 3:8 that reads,
“He that commits sin is of the devil; for the devil sins from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested that he might DESTROY the works of the devil.”
Jesus Christ is our Saviour because He saves us from sin, radically altering the ruling disposition. Anyone who has been in contact with the Lord when He alters the ruling disposition knows it, and so do others. But there is a painful, tremendous repentance first. The whole teaching of the Bible on the human side is based on repentance. The only repentant man is the holy man, and the only holy man is the one who has been made so by the marvel of the reconciliation or an instance of reconciliation between God and humans. Not being reconciled to the fact of sin— not recognizing it and refusing to deal with it— produces all the disasters in life. “The center of salvation is the Cross of Jesus, and the reason it is so easy to obtain salvation is because it cost God so much. The Cross is the point where God and sinful man merge with a crash and the way to life is opened – but the crash is on the heart of God.”
– Oswald Chambers

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Bo Davidson “You got to have faith”

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No need to fear prayer

No need to fear prayer
Most People have trouble with prayer because prayer is really an act of love and therefore demands vulnerability. Prayer is where we most directly face the truth of ourselves and of the world: it is risky business indeed. When I feel the fear associated with this vulnerability, I find it reassuring to remember that the word prayer comes from the Latin root precarius, meaning to depend upon grace.
Because of fear of depending on grace, conscious intentional prayer – which should be the most honest, loving enterprise of the human heart sometimes becomes one of the most dishonest it seems we will do almost anything to restrict its inherently radical nature. We try to confine it within private habits and institutional structures, going through its motions without facing its disturbing endless freshness.
We even devise hierarchies of prayer in which one form is more mature and sophisticated than the next. It is difficult for most of us to even think about prayer without being concerned about “doing it right” or comparing our prayer to someone else’s.
But, don’t be concerned about your form or style of prayer. Seek only honesty and truth, come to your best sense of your desire, and just be there as you are, with Jesus as Jesus may be. He is your mediator between you and God. Feel free to experiment. If structure forms of prayer arise that seem natural to you, you need not restrain them. Allow as much openness to radical freshness/expression as you can, yet be willing to give yourself to ritual or routine if that is what seem most authentic to you as you pray.
Prayer is wonderful gift from God. Don’t let your pride or ignorance get in your way of growing closer to God through prayer. Be in a prayer group set aside time each day to prayer. Prayer avails much, (James 5:16) helps others, (1st Tim 2:1) and helps you to live a life worthy of his call and you will be honored in the process. (2nd the 1:11-12.)

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Obedience


A video that has touched us here at Foundright on Obedience by David Platt

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